{"id":124,"date":"2015-04-21T21:45:17","date_gmt":"2015-04-22T04:45:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lornas.wpengine.com\/?p=124"},"modified":"2015-04-21T21:45:17","modified_gmt":"2015-04-22T04:45:17","slug":"cyberbullying-internet-trolls-and-gossip","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorennason.com\/2015\/04\/cyberbullying-internet-trolls-and-gossip\/","title":{"rendered":"Cyberbullying, Internet Trolls and Gossip"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>Everyone loves gossip whether it&#8217;s true or false.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>I saw a friend today link to a couple of &#8220;Gossip&#8221; twitter accounts for a local school district. Her concern was warranted. But what can you do?<\/p>\n<p>People have been talking shit about other people since the dawn of time.\u00a0About two-thirds of all human conversation is gossip (<a href=\"http:\/\/books.google.com\/books\/about\/Grooming_Gossip_and_the_Evolution_of_Lan.html?id=nN5DFNT-6ToC\" target=\"_blank\">Dunbar<\/a>); informal, trivial chatter, usually about the lives of other people.<\/p>\n<p>The problem now with gossip is that it&#8217;s electronic and doesn&#8217;t go away or is it as easy to ignore. When I was in high school I\u00a0could escape school when I got\u00a0home. Now it&#8217;s 24\/7 access.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><em>Gossip is not a trivial pastime: it is essential to human social, psychological and even physical well-being. The mobile phone, by facilitating therapeutic gossip in an alienating and fragmented modern world, has become a vital &#8216;social lifeline&#8217;, helping us to re-create the more natural communication patterns of pre-industrial times. Source -&gt; <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sirc.org\/publik\/gossip.shtml\" target=\"_blank\">Evolution, Alienation and Gossip<\/a><\/em><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.sirc.org\/publik\/gossip.shtml\" target=\"_blank\"><em> The role of mobile telecommunications in the 21st century<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong>What people really want to know is how do we protect our kids<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>The first thing you must accept\u00a0is You Can&#8217;t. You can&#8217;t hide them from the world.<\/p>\n<p>Once you have accepted that you cannot protect them you then can move on to the next stage. You teach them good strategies for dealing with haters\/trolls\/gossipers\/shit talker\/assholes\/etc. Which you then will realize, this is protecting them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ideas for ignoring the trolls.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Teach them first that people will ALWAYS talk shit about &#8220;you&#8221;.<\/li>\n<li>Help them get a thicker skin. There will ALWAYS be people that are mean to you. Even at 42 people talk shit about me.<\/li>\n<li>Explain to them that Gossip is normal.<\/li>\n<li>IMPORTANT &#8211; Teach them to NOT FEED THE TROLLS<br \/>\nFeeding the trolls means responding to them. If you respond they immediately know they have hit your button and will keep do it more.<\/li>\n<li>Have a louder internet voice than the trolls<br \/>\nIf kids\/people search your name you can work at having a stronger internet presence than some kid talking smack on some flash in the pan social platform wont be found in a internet search.<\/li>\n<li>Don&#8217;t use the internet<br \/>\nHAHAHA, like that will happen<br \/>\nYou can&#8217;t ban them from being online. If a kid wants to do something and you vehemently say NO,\u00a0they will find a way to get online.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The main thing to learn is that you cannot control the &#8216;cyber-bullying&#8217; \/ gossip \/ trolls \/ or whatever name you want to call them. Just like a business has to learn to &#8220;deal&#8221; with haters. Your children will have to learn to deal with them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>One last idea:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Have them celebrate their first hater. See example of a business celebrating their first 1-start review and follow that mind set.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><a href=\"http:\/\/laist.com\/2015\/04\/16\/hollywood_bar_celebrates_first_1-st.php\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Hollywood Bar Celebrates First 1-Star Yelp Review With $1 Cocktails<\/em><\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>If a person posts something nasty\/untrue about &#8220;you&#8221;. Celebrate it like you&#8217;ve become famous.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-125\" src=\"http:\/\/lornas.wpengine.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/04\/hater.jpg\" alt=\"hater\" width=\"213\" height=\"299\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Everyone loves gossip whether it&#8217;s true or false. I saw a friend today link to a couple of &#8220;Gossip&#8221; twitter accounts for a local school district. Her concern was warranted. But what can you do? 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