{"id":281,"date":"2015-06-10T21:39:20","date_gmt":"2015-06-11T04:39:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lornas.wpengine.com\/?p=281"},"modified":"2015-06-10T21:39:20","modified_gmt":"2015-06-11T04:39:20","slug":"what-is-happiness-and-how-do-you-be-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lorennason.com\/2015\/06\/what-is-happiness-and-how-do-you-be-happy\/","title":{"rendered":"What is Happiness and How do you be “Happy”"},"content":{"rendered":"
<\/a>I am what you would probably consider a happy person?<\/p>\n Why am I happy?<\/strong><\/p>\n Hell if I know.<\/p>\n I don’t have the perfect life. I haven’t achieved all my “dreams”. I have struggles (lots of them). I’ve tried many different business ideas (or schemes) that have failed. Even the tech side of my life isn’t optimum.<\/p>\n Even with all the struggles in life etc. I know that if I had nothing and lived under a bridge. I would be happy and I don’t know why.<\/p>\n But this isn’t about me.<\/p>\n How do you tell someone else how to be happy?<\/p>\n How do you tell the person who says:<\/strong><\/p>\n I am completely alone. I have friends on Facebook but nobody talks to me i don’t hang out with people. Nobody truly likes me. They say they love you but only so they don’t break their heart. I am alive but have nothing to live for. Not dead but have no point in living. Nobody knows me at all.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n or<\/p>\n family will only love you cuz they feel like they have no choice and than grow accustom to this thing people call love. what is love?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n I don’t understand depression and I don’t know how to help them. I do realize that it is real. This person is on medication and it is helping but then they say:<\/p>\n i have to take medicine to stay happy. how is that living?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n The crappy thing about depression is when you are depressed your friends disappear. This person whom I referenced is not alone and someone is there now.<\/p>\n What I am doing<\/strong><\/p>\n I’m there for that person and also letting them know I don’t know what to do but just be there for them and to get them help.<\/p>\n You don’t tell them anything to make them happy. You find them the help they need. Drugs, counseling, a shoulder, group therapy. So many other things that you can do that will help them without telling them to change themselves.<\/p>\n You can’t tell someone with depression to be self-reliant. You have to let them know that it is ok to ask for help and not be stoic about it. Let them know you are here to help.<\/p>\n Stuff I have read<\/strong><\/p>\n I remember seeing a\u00a0book excerpt of a guy who suffered from anxiety and it caused his depression and I wish I remembered where I saw that. His story was about how he thought he had clinical depression but it was anxiety that caused his depression. He then when on to write a book and i think is also a public speaker. When I saw the write up on this book (or whatever it was) the author referenced a picture of him as a child and in it he looked angry\/sullen. But in reality he came to realize he was having and anxiety attack. So if you can think of what this book is let me know.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n This post at Pope Hat is also quite eye opening<\/a>. A full on Type – A criminal defense attorney who has an\u00a0outwardly “normal,” high-functioning and successful life, but suffers from grave anxiety and depression, and last year it got bad enough that he was hospitalized “voluntarily” for it.<\/p>\n Here are some posts from The Bloggess that also bring some insight.<\/p>\n http:\/\/thebloggess.com\/2015\/05\/to-missing-friends-the-ones-lost-the-ones-in-hiding\/<\/a><\/p>\n http:\/\/thebloggess.com\/2012\/04\/depression-lies\/<\/a><\/p>\n